I Promise I DO Like Men.

After many comments, texts, fb posts, gchats, and emails about my year of single post, a follow-up was necessary. The girls' responses were so uplifting and I felt like everyone understood where I was coming from. My favorites:

• Amy: I wish they made a restraining order app.
• Camille: I recently went out for happy hour with a girlfriend and out of nowhere, random dude tapped me on the shoulder and said, "I can see by the ring that you're married-but if for some reason you find yourself not...I'll still be at this bar waiting-even 6 months from now." 
• Gabriela: Is it bad that I still pretend to be single to get free drinks sometimes? And that my boyfriend encourages it?
• Katie: i am SERIOUSLY in love with you and SERIOUSLY want you to date my brother (HA!)
• Nichole: This is genius. Followed by, do these dudes know you have this site? 

Why yes, Nicole, they do. And their responses to my post were hilarious. Let's leave them anonymous. ;)

• How did I not make the "highlights?" 
• I feel like you are Kate Hudson from How to Lose a Guy in 10 days...and I'm the story!
• I am very pleased (with myself) that I found all of what you found to be creepy, to be creepy, as well. Hooray for not being a dbag!!
• After reading that I'm not ever texting you again.
• This is scary to potential suitors. Not in a bad way but like if you take out tiny orso then watch the f out for these things.
• The girls' comments are absurd....It's like you have a giant girl party on that blog.

And just so any male readers don't think I am the devil for writing about how crazy they can be, I'm providing you with a list of Dos!

The Shimmer Lights: These will make you shine among the rest.

• DO know what you want. Whether it is to date, hang out, have a relationship, a fling, over even just a textationship, be up front about it. Nobody likes games. But more importantly, being straight forward shows confidence, which takes me to...
• DO have confidence. Remind us why we should be interested in you. Don't down-talk or doubt yourself around us. We girls can be there to boost your confidence, but we shouldn't have to give it to you.
• DO treat everyone with respect. There's nothing worse than a guy who speaks badly about others, or thinks that he is better than anyone else. The moment you start thinking you are better than someone else is the moment I start thinking you're not.
• DO make us laugh. Who doesn't like to have fun? Entertain us, tell us jokes, surprise us with silly things that you think we'll like. Laughter = love.
• DO be a gentleman. Wine us, dine us, charm us, compliment us. Just be sweet. But not too sweet because then we'll gag.
• DO find someone you share at least one hobby with. I like food and working out, and would expect my partner to like the same. DO also have your own hobbies. This helps keep us independent, and you can always share your hobbies with us, if applicable. We can cheer you on in your football game, just don't ask us to get on the field with you.

This is a reaaaaally basic list and I have million more tips I could write, but I need to eat lunch. So I will leave that up to my readers: What essentials do YOU look for in a guy? 

And say hello to some of my favorite men, who DO exhibit positive qualities:

Frankie and Santo, my favorite foodies:

Boding, my old roomie:

Julius, my trainer:

Matt, our typical pose:

TJ, with one of my cookies:

Perry, my perr bear:

Meredith:

William, my (lucky) best friend's husband:

(yes, I have a wig on.)

Cypress Review and Fashion Questions Answered!

Last Friday, my friend TJ was in town and wanted to have dinner downtown. He made the mistake of making letting me choose the restaurant. With the surplus of amazing restaurants in Charleston, this proved to be a difficult task. When choosing a new restaurant, I immediately do two things. First, I bbm Santo and Frankie Staropoli. Those Italian stallions know the meaning of good food. Second, I visit Urbanspoon. After consulting with the stallions and reading 20582 reviews,  I informed TJ that we would be dining at Cypress. 

Located to the left of sister restaurants Blossom and Magnolia's, Cypress is in an historic building with contemporary decor. The open kitchen and color-changing ceiling lights are almost as intriguing as the wall of wine featuring 4,500 bottles. Both of us agreed that while inside the restaurant, we could have been in New York, but one peek into the menu  we were back in the South. The menu highlights regional cuisine with a modern flair including a section of seasonal items.

We were first presented with an overwhelming wine list. I told TJ that was his decision to make. He simply asked me, "White or red?" and "American or French?" Within a minute of me responding, "White. American." he chose the Chehalem 2009 3 Vineyard Pinot Gris. Done.

This wine was excellent -- full-bodied with flavors of tropical fruit and a hint of spice. It reminded me much of my favorite wine, Elk Grove Pinot Gris, also from Willamette Valley. Both have a high alcohol content and pair well with a variety of foods. Score, score.

After receiving recommendations from our attentive and very knowledgeable waitress, we made big decisions. We daringly started with Grilled Pork Belly. Fearful that we'd be presented with something resembling the tripa I sampled in Italy, I was delighted when the pork belly was much more visually satisfying. Unfortunately we dug in before I snapped a pic, but the pork was placed over a bed of maple steel cut oats with golden raisins. The pork was salty and crispy while the oats were creamy and sweet.

For my entree, I chose the Crisp Wasabi Tuna. The tuna was baked in sheets of phyllo and had a warm but rare center. It was accompanied by edamame and shiitake mushrooms with a very sweet ginger-garlic glaze. This dish was excellent. That glaze...oh, that glaze. Our server was sweet enough to tell me how to make it at home, but the 14.9% alcohol content in the wine had just kicked in. Shoot.

TJ's entree, Duo of American Lamb, was was one of the seasonal specials. The duo consisted of a loin placed over tomatoes and a shank placed over mustard greens risotto, both with a balsamic reduction. The meat was surprisingly as tender as the risotto and the reduction was delicious.

Although we were both pretty full, when a dessert menu features carrot cake, I'm still hungry. The Ice Cream Sandwich Trio included chocolate cake with brandied cherry, carrot cake with spiced rum mascarpone, and banana bread with a caramel swirl walnut filling. As adorable as these cubes appear, they weren't as good as I had anticipated. Needing to be cold enough to hold the ice cream, they were difficult to eat with a fork. Don't worry, I ate the caramelized banana chips, scraped up some chocolate sauce, finished my wine, and everything was dandy.

Overall, Cypress was a wonderful experience and is now among my list of favorite restaurants. The restaurant had an elegant, yet comfortable atmosphere and the food was excellent.

Remember last week when I asked you guys for fashion questions for TJ? He was a trooper for sure and answered quite a few of them. Please enjoy his humorous yet informative responses!

Melissa: Do guys like when girls wear baseball caps? I'm growing my hair out and it's a hot mess. I wear hats...A LOT.

TJ: Haha, funny question. Does this imply baseball caps or like hat-hats? I'd say that they're always good for a hangover day or at the beach, but other than that, leave 'em in the closet. 

Amy: I'd like to know if guys really actually notice accessories and such. or is that just one of those things girls do to "dress to impress" in front of other girls?

TJ: Dress to impress with the not too typically stereotyped "accessories." This means belts or boots. Guys always notice boots, especially cowboy boots. Stay away from scarves, but do add a touch more with light jewelry around the neck/wrists.

Christina: I slightly disagree with TJ here - scarves are a great way to spruce up a boring tee or cardi, but yes, they can give us a bit of an unsexy grandma look.

Amanda H: Why do guys really hate Ugg boots? They are so comfortable, and I just don't understand what makes them so ugly in guys' eyes?? Find out!!

TJ: Are we going skiing? They may be comfortable and warm, but it's not 0 degrees outside with tons of snow. Leave them to the Eskimos.

Amanda: Since most men dont' actually notice their designer dress or shoes...what is the ONE thing that guys do notice on a lady? 

TJ: What is around your neck. Guys are commonly drawn to look at a necklace. But also, don't overdo it. A simple, yet elegant piece will get the most notice.

Christina: What I think he's trying to say is, "We really like to stare at your boobs and a big flashy necklace will only get in our way."

Krystina: What do guys think about a girl wearing work out clothes like daily attire, outside the gym?

TJ: Spandex is never a bad thing.

Christina: This is true. Trust a girl that's not afraid to wear her spandex gym shorts to the grocery store.

Ellen: Ask your friend what guys generally think about girls who wear Converse. :) I'd never give mine up, but I get a feeling my bf is getting sick of them, ha!

TJ: It's not the 90s anymore.

Christina: I've never owned any, but Target really seems to think they're still in fashion. 

Chelsea: I'm always curious about whether guys like it better if girls dress for comfort or if they dress to impress.

TJ: Always dress to impress. Comfortable can be worked in.

Christina: It is possible to do both - except when it comes to shoes. The more painful the shoe, the cuter it is. I swear. Invest in band-aids my ladies.

Please note that the above responses are based on market trends that TJ sees in his career as a local designer and sales rep for a southern-based clothing company. For more information on men's fashion trends as well as the occasional restaurant review, please check out TJ's blog: Dress or Dine.